My Review of OMGYES, the Website Aiming to Close the Pleasure Gap

So I bought OMGYES and here’s my review of it.

What is OMGYES?

Here’s their intro video:

The idea is stupid-simple. Ask a bunch of women what feels good to them, find the patterns, then teach other women how to do those moves.

Co-founders Lydia Daniller and Rob Perkins had a research team interview 10,000 women about their preferences and commissioned Kinsey Institute researchers Dr. Debby Herbenick and Dr. Brian Dodge at Indiana University to conduct a nationally representative survey of another 10,000 women. This qualitative and quantitative research forms the basis of their techniques.

Why Did I Try OMGYES?

It appealed to me for three reasons: the research, the technology, and the potential results. I'm generally interested in academic research on intimacy and feel women's pleasure is particularly understudied. The teaching method also intrigued me—it involves interactive videos and feedback.

I often struggle with discovering what feels good to me and communicating that clearly to partners, usually sticking to one familiar method. While I enjoy intimacy, I wished exploring new ways to feel good wasn’t so difficult.

My Experience with OMGYES

The interface is modern and attractive, although clearer guidance on where to start would be helpful.

Instructional videos demonstrate techniques, some completely new to me. For example, I learned that "edging," a method to prolong and enhance pleasure, led to more intense satisfaction for many women studied. I also learned that there are three main edging techniques, and typically only one works best per individual.

The videos feature real women openly discussing and demonstrating techniques, which was initially surprising but ultimately comforting. Small details, like the variability in sensitivity, were reassuring to hear normalized by others.

Putting OMGYES to the Test

After exploring the "teasing" module, I tried out some techniques. Knowing these techniques were effective for thousands of other women gave me confidence to ask clearly for what I wanted—and to insist on trying it long enough to figure it out.

Previously, I’d often rush during intimacy focused on my pleasure, frequently shifting attention prematurely to my partner. OMGYES helped me realize that allowing more time to explore and enjoy intimacy greatly improved my experience.

Who Should Consider OMGYES?

I had a pretty good grip on what didn’t feel good before OMGYES. But I didn’t know what to insist on trying, and what to insist on continuing. Most partners, if they tease me, do it for about 30 seconds before moving on. That’s not enough, not only for me, but for most women, according to the research. Maybe it shouldn’t, but it really helps me demand more to have other women backing me up, saying that the fact that it’s not working is because you need to do it longer. Which is somewhat counterintuitive.